I don't think either one was better than the other. In the beginning, I didn't care for either one of them, but by the end I felt that they both tried their best to raise their children right.
Martha had them lie about her to save themselves, and Thomas tried his best to take care of them while they were held in jail, bringing them as much food and water as he could.
They both loved their children dearly, but they didn't always show it, and, like all parents, made mistakes.
I agree with Kristi. At the start of the book I was not terribly impressed with either Thomas or Martha. When Sarah and Hannah were sent to live with her aunt and uncle I felt they had been saved from an unloving home. But then things aren't always as they appear are they.
I mostly felt like they did the best they could for their children. I felt they were both strong. I did find myself feeling angry with Martha, I guess because she is the mother and I couldn't relate to her lack of connection with her own children. I was particularly saddened by the story of Hannah and how Martha barely parented her at all. Being a mother myself, I could not relate to that.
I didn't like either one of them in the beginning, either. I really, really wanted both children to stay with their Aunt, and I agree that in the end, Hannah would probably have been better of staying there, although at least she was spared the jail experience being taken away as she was.
I tried to think of what DH and I would have done in the same situation, and I can't come up with anything different than what they did, other than leaving the area entirely and striking out West or something. If I had to pick one parent as being better, I would probably pick her mother. Martha told them to lie to save themselves, and yet withstood the worst in order to show them how to be strong. Thomas tried to care for them, but being a man in that time, really had no idea how to be the primary caregiver for children. I think his story was more of love for his wife, and by proxy his caring for his children, whereas Martha's story was the opposite.
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I don't think either one was better than the other. In the beginning, I didn't care for either one of them, but by the end I felt that they both tried their best to raise their children right.
Martha had them lie about her to save themselves, and Thomas tried his best to take care of them while they were held in jail, bringing them as much food and water as he could.
They both loved their children dearly, but they didn't always show it, and, like all parents, made mistakes.
I agree with Kristi. At the start of the book I was not terribly impressed with either Thomas or Martha. When Sarah and Hannah were sent to live with her aunt and uncle I felt they had been saved from an unloving home. But then things aren't always as they appear are they.
I mostly felt like they did the best they could for their children. I felt they were both strong. I did find myself feeling angry with Martha, I guess because she is the mother and I couldn't relate to her lack of connection with her own children. I was particularly saddened by the story of Hannah and how Martha barely parented her at all. Being a mother myself, I could not relate to that.
I didn't like either one of them in the beginning, either. I really, really wanted both children to stay with their Aunt, and I agree that in the end, Hannah would probably have been better of staying there, although at least she was spared the jail experience being taken away as she was.
I tried to think of what DH and I would have done in the same situation, and I can't come up with anything different than what they did, other than leaving the area entirely and striking out West or something. If I had to pick one parent as being better, I would probably pick her mother. Martha told them to lie to save themselves, and yet withstood the worst in order to show them how to be strong. Thomas tried to care for them, but being a man in that time, really had no idea how to be the primary caregiver for children. I think his story was more of love for his wife, and by proxy his caring for his children, whereas Martha's story was the opposite.
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